Shame on ADHD!
I have been struck by the predominance of shame in ADDer adults. This is a different kind of shame than, let’s say, someone who has PTSD symptoms. It is not related to one or a series of catastrophic events. It is more related to feeling different and inadequate in day to day tasks.
Many feel exhausted and embarrassed after social interactions. They believe they say the wrong thing at the wrong time. Blurting out responses and forming complete thoughts only after starting to talk is a hallmark of ADD! Paying close attention to this phenomenon is crucial to the psychological health of the ADDer.
The first step is the recognition of this deep sense of shame that has formed throughout the years and with millions of interactions. The second step is to manage the insidious and all-pervasive anxiety that comes with it through psychotherapy and SSRI or SNRI antidepressants. The third step is balancing self-acceptance and cultivating a sense of compassion for self and others.
Saying the wrong thing might not be as bad as one thinks. Besides, who really cares?! In the larger scheme of things, an off-hand remark is inconsequential. That’s a good ADDitude!